A good loyal woman is one of the greatest things a man can have in his life. She is not defined by outward beauty but by an inner essence, her strength, her imperfections, her resilience, her laughter and her tears. Beauty is not in the face but in a light that glows in the heart.
Winning a woman’s heart is one thing, learning to treasure it is another. To treasure a woman’s heart, you must know it. What makes it bloom and what makes it wither? What are the whispers of her heart? What does she want? Now, with respect to ‘wants,’ we are not talking about generalities like wanting cream cheese on an ‘everything’ bagel. Specifically, what does a woman want from her man?
Ob·liv·i·ous: (adjective) Not aware of or not concerned about what is happening around one.
We are defining the word oblivious here because, to be honest, that is what many men are when it comes to understanding their woman. They don’t have a clue about how important it is for a man to ‘tune-in’ to his partner, to know when to lead and when to follow, to know when to talk and when to shut-up, to know when to help and when to let her be independent. All these things require that a man know his woman and to know her, he must pay attention to her thoughts, actions, needs and desires. To be oblivious to these things, gives the signal “I don’t really care,” -whether this feeling is real or implied. So here is a list of things that a woman wants from her man:
A partner that is willing to partner. If either person in a relationships feels like they are doing all the work, mentally, emotional, and /or physically, it cannot be sustained. The titanic was beautiful in its infancy, but a sinking ship loses all its glory. For a relationship to be healthy, there should be the sharing of ideas, decisions, as well as household tasks. Treat her as an equal partner in all ways.
To feel Seen and Heard. Do you know her favorite color? Do you know what makes her tick, what makes her feel vulnerable, what makes her unique and special? A woman doesn’t want to be in a relationship where she is willing to be vulnerable to someone who is not willing to mirror a thoughtful response. Let her feel that she has a voice and that it is meaningful.
To speak her language of Love. According to author Gary Chapman, there are five basic love languages. Knowing and expressing love via your partner’s love language, allows you to meet the other’s deep emotional need to feel loved. The five languages are: Words of affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Keep in mind that she will likely have more than one, yet, one will be dominant.
To be a friend. A true friend will support and inspire their partner to live up to their best potential. They will willingly pick them up when they fall down. They will make them feel valued and accepted, no matter the scars, imperfections or shadows. A true friend is available and dependable at any time of need, even if in silence. Being a true friend will allow her to feel comfortable just as she is. It is acceptance sprinkled with a layer of unconditional love.
Giving a woman these things is not overindulgent. You will not spoil her. To honor and respect a woman is to give her the gift of wings while allowing her the freedom to expand them. She is worth being loved and she is worth being cherished. She is worth the effort. She is worth being someone’s everything.